I wrote this article for AFineParent.com and it was published this week. I am so, so proud of this piece. It’s not just for parents, though! It’s for anyone who has ever had a disagreement with their spouse, friend, sibling, or co-worker. The steps here are things I use as an organization development consultant when I go in to help resolve conflicts.
Okay, maybe I don’t have co-workers tell each other “I love you.” But it is important to find a way to show respect for your co-worker and their ideas. The concept of Unconditional Positive Regard is universal and there are many ways of conveying it.
I hope you enjoy the article. I would love it if you could leave comments at AFineParent, like it on the site, and share it with your friends.
In my house 90% of all arguments start with a “Can I?” followed up with a “No.”
Then CRACK! We’re off to the shouting matches.
Here’s a recent shout-a-thon.
“Can I have a PS4?”
“But why can’t I have a PS4?? Alex has one! And so does Miles!”
“But you are not going to have one. You don’t need one!”
“But they have Star Front Battle Wars! I love that game!”
“I said NO!”
“But I WANT it! And I am GOING to get it!”
“You. Are. Not! Now, you listen to me, young man! There is no way, on this green earth, that I am going to buy you a PS4!!”
“YOU CAN’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!!”
Did all that shouting solve anything? Nope. Am I proud of myself? Not in the slightest. In fact, as soon as I calm down I feel awful. I shouted at my child! I’m not even sure why. I must be the worst parent ever!